So What's Therapy Like?

May 1, 2018

So What's Therapy Like?

May 1, 2018




A couple of months ago, I decided to briefly share my struggles with depression. I was deeply touched by the amount of support I received from readers and friends as well. I was terrified when I first published that blog post but now I feel so much freer. It is wonderful to finally be able to be honest with my myself and if I helped someone do the same then that is even better.
For those that do not know, May is Mental Health Awareness Month. One of my twitter friends (@MacnMahalia) had tweeted about not seeing enough people share their experiences with therapy. Therapy is always thrown out there as a way to treat mental illness but nobody ever talks about what it's like. 
Admitting that I needed help was definitely a hard pill to swallow. I had stopped going through therapy as a teenager because I felt like I didn't need it anymore. I still suffered from depressive episodes but I held it all inside because I couldn't understand what was happening and I also didn't want to admit that something was wrong with me. It was when I was about 25 that I decided to find some help once again. I just couldn't deal with it anymore.
My insurance didn't offer me a whole lot of options, so I just the office that was closest to me. When I made the phone call, I was asked some questions in order to see if I qualified to receive services. Then, I was given an appointment to come in. At that appointment, I was assigned to a therapist, who will I refer to as Ms. H. I was lucky enough to find a therapist that I liked right away. Ms. H was great. The first couple of sessions were definitely awkward because I dislike talking about myself so there was a lot of silence. But, Ms. H was very patient and never pressured me to talk if I didn't feel up to it. Over time, we developed a rapport. Our sessions weren't just about talking, Ms. H helped me set up short and long-term goals as well as improve my self-confidence. She would give me little exercises to do in between our sessions to help manage my depression. I became more aware of things about myself, both positive and negative. But most importantly, I learned to accept having a mental illness. 

Therapy is definitely not a magical cure. And it is a process that takes dedication and patience. Like I mentioned before, it took several sessions for me to even say something. But once I started talking (and crying), the words just kept spilling out. It got easier to communicate.
Sadly, my time with Ms. H was cut short because she was transferred to another facility. And I did not like her replacement. Let's just say, she was pretty biased and was very quick to suggest medication (which I will elaborate in another post). So, I stopped going and found other ways to cope. But I do not regret going to therapy. I still struggle with my depression but I learned how to manage it. I can recognize certain triggers and it's gotten a little easier to ease myself out of those dark days. It helped me realize that my feelings are valid and that it is okay to receive help.


I Couldn't Help But Wonder...

Apr 16, 2018

I Couldn't Help But Wonder...

Apr 16, 2018



I was doing some Spring shopping for Jeremy at Zara when I came across a flower brooch. It gave me some serious "Sex and The City Season 3" vibes. In that season, Carrie wears a lot of flowers as statement accessories. That and having my hair curly had me channeling Ms. Bradshaw.






top, pants & coat: Forever21; flower brooch: Zara; shoes: Lulu's
What is up with this weather? We had a little teaser this past weekend but it's back to "Sprinter", I guess. I took these photos with my good friend Daniel. It was a fun photo session full of jokes, which kept me distracted from how cold it was. Daniel has a photography page on Instagram (@luxure.jpg) if you'd like to check out his work. It's pretty awesome.

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SHOP FLOWER BROOCHES:

White Flower Brooch
Flower Brooch (Assorted Colors)




Generation Z Yellow?

Apr 11, 2018

Generation Z Yellow?

Apr 11, 2018


sweater: Pretty Little Thing, pants: Boohoo, shoes: Lola Shoetique, bag: Zara

Te Molesta Mi Brillo?

Apr 7, 2018

Te Molesta Mi Brillo?

Apr 7, 2018


sweatshirt: MMMerch, skirt: Boohoo, boots: Forever21, clutch: ebay

I collaborated with the incredibly talented Milli of Milli Stephania Photography for these photos. She has an incredible eye for color and I learned a couple of things about posing from her. It was freaking cold that day but we managed to get some pretty great shots.

OOTDs & NOLA Recap

Apr 3, 2018

OOTDs & NOLA Recap

Apr 3, 2018


top: Pretty Little Thing, pants: Forever21, sneakers: ADIDAS Stan Smith, bag: Louis Vuitton Florentine pochette

Last weekend, I went to New Orleans to celebrate my birthday. I enjoyed myself immensely.  I stayed in the French Quarter at the historic Le Pavillon hotel.  The hotel is very beautiful with antique furnishings and French influence in its design. Despite the rumors of it being haunted, I did not encounter any ghosts. The hotel was conveniently located by Jackson Square and Bourbon Street, making it easy to explore. The photos taken below were taken inside the hotel. It will give you an idea how pretty it was.

*At the end of this post, there are links to shop for my outfits. For items that are unavailable, I provided similar options. Hope you enjoy this post!


dress: @edyth_couture on instagram, shoes: Christian Louboutin Jonatina sandals





top (worn as dress): thrifted, shoes: Christian Louboutin Jonatina sandals
As expected, we had a blast on Bourbon Street. Tourists and locals alike were very friendly. I enjoyed dining in the Garden District (with the exception of Muriel's) a lot more as it wasn't so busy and you get more bang for your buck over there. We went to the Blind Pelican for lunch and had some fantastic chargrilled oysters. You get a dozen for about ten bucks. 



Garden District


For my birthday dinner, we went to Muriel's in Jackson Square. And there I had a creepy encounter. After dining, we went to have a look around. The restaurant is said to be haunted, and the restaurant always has a table set for its resident ghost, Pierre Antoine. The restaurant also has a seance room. While in the seance room, I went to open a door and felt as if the door was being pulled from the other side. I assumed it was a heavy door, so I pulled harder on the handle. All of a sudden, the handle was jerked away from me and the door slammed shut. We were all pretty creeped out!


seance lounge in Muriel's

table set for the ghost, Pierre Antoine


Besides stuffing my face, I also did a couple of tours. A Swamp Tour & a Ghost Tour. Both were very educational and very interesting. I was lucky enough to have guides that have a passion for their particular subject. Overall, I had a terrific time in NOLA. I can't wait to visit again!

baby Bruce & me 

a Hurricane cocktail



hot chocolate and beignets from Cafe DuMonde

Louis Armstrong Park


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My Cake Smash Photoshoot

Mar 28, 2018

My Cake Smash Photoshoot

Mar 28, 2018



As I am turning thirty, I decided to have a photoshoot to commemorate this moment. While searching for ideas, I came across the adult cake smash theme. I found it to be super cute and decided to have that be my theme. I loved the "young at heart" message that it portrayed because at the end of the day: age is just a number. Jeremy is turning ten next month so he joined the photoshoot party as well. Entering the double digits is a big moment too!

top: Boohoo, skirt: Amazon, shoes: Christian Louboutin 






The lovely Melissa of  Ragdoll Films did a fantastic job commemorating these moments. I took these photos in the comfort of my home. We did the outdoor shots close to my apartment. The original plan was to go to the park but March weather was like "nope!" so we did some street shots instead. I think they came out great anyway. She is an absolute doll. Super patient and really wants to make sure to get some good shots. Getting the confetti shots took a lot of takes. You have to blow the confetti a certain way and  have a large amount  to make sure it shows in the photo. Our perseverance was rewarded with some pretty amazing shots.









Setting up the photoshoot was a lot of fun. I'd like to try my hand at styling more photoshoots. It was fun putting al these props together.  I purchased the "Hello 30" banner from Etsy and the cake was from Crystal of Slice of Heaven NYC. She makes truly amazing cakes which you can check out on her IG, @sliceofheavennyc.

I DIY'd a lot of stuff because that's how I roll.  For the signs, I framed some foam poster board and used chalk markers for the lettering. I took advantage of having nice penmanship and freehanded most of it.  The cake stand was homemade from a candle stick and plate I got from Dollar Tree. The cake Crystal made included the "H&J" cake topper. I made the "thirty" cake topper by using an online stencil maker and printing it out on card stock. I then used an X-acto knife to cut it out. I then covered it in glue and put gold glitter over it.






t-shirt: Etsy, skirt: Altazurra for Target

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